Why am I labelled as a ‘Black Sheep” in my family, why is that so? Did I offend anyone?

Why, did they treat me like a ‘Maid’ instead of their own sibling? Maybe I poor or just simple, that they make use & take advantage of me?

I left home in year 1994 after getting a divorce & getting my sale share from my 3rm flat. I actually are disappointed & hurt after my mum suggested that I bought a bigger flat, I was into it but after awhile I feel very lousy because the master bedroom should be given to my step-brother where else I am paying for it, using my own CPF.

I wondered why & why... That’s it, I never got my 2 children’s custody & I live by my own till year 1998 when I bought my own 3rm flat, then came… my 17yrs old son, who wanted to stay with me. Both of us... are very happy, my 18yrs old daughter stay with her father.

Nobody in my family came into our lives but recently in Nov 2008, my 4th sister managed to track me down, thanks to her workplace in telecommunication company that she just key in my IC no. wah la… my full details out from the screen!

At the time, when I met my 4th sister, I am jobless… not even a single cent in my pocket then she bring me to meet my mum & my elder sister, we went out for dinner together with their friends, nieces & nephews.

I am very happy to meet all of them; I thought I am the luckiest person… Well, we met few times after that, my 4th sister even handed her hdp & internet usb for me to use. So, I thought they so caring to me even though I never see them for long but my happiness are provoked & I am very very hurtful, why must they did this to me?

On Friday, 26th Dec 2008… my 4th sister sms me.. saying she going to Melaka, I thought she wanted to invite me along but alas! She actually wanted me to clean up her house while she happily go for a trip with her husband & son. So, may I ask… who am I, her 3rd sister or a maid? Just because I am jobless, poor & simple person… does that mean, she can take advantage of me; I am very sad that my own blood are treating me like this!

And again, 29th Dec 2008… my elder sister call but I didn’t answer, when I replied by sms… she told me that 4th sister are sick, cant wake up from the bed, so… I told her that I am working, she should call 4th sister’ husband instead of me, then she said he is working & I told her, so am I?

My elder sister insisted that I should call 4th sister but I told her, that it was my 1st day of work & no personal call, she kept calling, so... I told her off, why she wasting a lot of time, calling me…

I told her to give me, 4th sister address, I will call the 995 & also told her, even if I were to go there to pick & send her to hospital, also no use because I got no $$$.

I told elder sister that I will sms 4th sister’ husband to let him know, about her condition… so that he can drive back & check his wife. My elder sister said I should check my 4th sister 1st.

I still don’t understand, why… cant they just said truly that she need my help in cleaning up her house, why is she so sneaky, why create such story for?

The best was, suddenly my elder sister asked whether I am free… on the eve of New Year, told her… I am not because I have a volunteer patrol duty & replied to her, to let me know… 2weeks in advance if she ever need my help & she never reply me.

I also told my elder sister, that I cancelled going a cruise with them…
I kept thinking about, my biggest mistake of keeping in touch with them recently.

I shouldn’t ask my 4th sister to help top-up my mrt $70 link card on 10th Dec 2008. This cost my whole life pride that they make me to be!

I will return her stuff by 30th Dec 2008, I think it is better otherwise 4th & elder sister will tried to take advantage & make use of me, because of them… I become more stressful & keep thinking... why must I been treated like ‘ A MAID & A BLACK SHEEP SISTER’ again!

I am not a good terms with my 2nd brother & because of these happening around me, I have decided to ‘SEVER TIES’ with them except my mum!

They ask for it & they will get it, very soon by lawyer letter!

For now... I have learned my lesson, those.. who trying to be helpful are waiting to make use of me again, I had enough of all this!

I want to live happily with my 2 beautiful children - 28yrs old daughter & 27yrs old son...